One of the things on my "to-write-about" list is something I noticed I did back in November. I didn't get around to writing about it yet, though. Dang it.
And then what do you know, I found myself doing it again just last week. Now I'm even more determined to write about this, as it is something I am not proud of at all.
What did I do that was so horrible?
I got on to a friend for something I am passionate about.
I know, doesn't sound horrible per say.
But, when I am passionate about something that I learned that helped me deeply and strongly about my pool journey, I tend to speak up more about it.
It's difficult to describe.
However, let me share something real quick: I recall distinctly a friend in the late 90s telling me that my personal goal to win Most Improved Player was ludicrous. It took me awhile to realize her point, but she was saying basically my goal was dependent on others. I had no control over that - someone else decided that "title" (and no, I did not win it, even though I came close).
So, fast forward 20 years and I kinda got on to my friend who shared with me back in November ironically that was her goal for the upcoming year. I should have listened more to her and also been kinder in my response. Instead, my passion for what I learned took over and I didn't really acknowledged her goal, just more so told her it wasn't a good idea. I didn't want her to go through the same thing I learned the hard way. But, I could have stated it all better, as I told myself as I drove away from our outing.
Fast forward 9 months later and I recognized on my drive home from visiting with a different friend, that I kinda got on to her for a comment she made about big tables versus bar tables.
I admit when I am passionate about something or feel strongly about something that exponentially helped my game, I will speak up. But I don't need to be rude about it. Ugh. I pretty much told my friend she was wrong, and I kept stating all these reasons I learned why it's best to only practice on a 9 foot table, and that that will in turn actually help you when you get to smaller tables.
I even quipped, "don't you read my blog?" lol.
She laughed at the moment, but I am betting she felt badly I was so vocal about the topic. (here is just one blog entry I wrote about why it's crucial to practice on 9 foot tables and how helpful it is to your game on all table sizes.) (see, I can't stop!)
I really need to be better at giving advice at times. Just because I learned something that deeply helped my game, doesn't mean I need to be a bully about it. I can be kind and still make points.
I am trying to figure out why I was so vocal these two times, when usually I'm pretty calm and reserved, and actually carefully think about how I'm saying my advice. I want my learning experiences and advice it to be received well, so I normally am very careful with my word choices so they don't come across harsh. Not sure what was going on these two times. My apologies.