My friend didn't get to the hill, but she did try her little heart out and never gave up.
She was elated she made a comeback and got to 5 games against a tough opponent! But, also a little disappointed she could have made it hill-hill.
Her opponent, however, was upset because she felt like she was giving games way. In her eyes, she was making mistakes.
At the end of the day, someone asked her opponent how my friend played. Her response was, "I should have beat her 7-1."
Now this is the part that gets interesting.
That last comment was passed on to my friend! IMHO, I think it was inappropriate to tell someone, basically, "She said she should have beat you 7-1." I am actually upset that my friend was told that, because it never should have been shared.
My friend was hurt by the remark. In her eyes, she thought she earned those games. Instead, she felt like she wasn't given any credit for her wins.
It's a very interesting perspective, really.
And I know this happens all the time.
One person was simply sharing she made some mistakes and if she hadn't have, the score would have been 7-1, so she was disappointed in her own play.
The other player felt like she wasn't given enough credit for her wins. She did get out and make balls to earn those 4 games, she felt.
Her opponent's comment was strictly about her OWN game. But my friend took the comment a little personally, because she did try very hard and did make a comeback.
I'm more upset at the person who passed on the info. What was the purpose in telling my friend that? Seriously? Quite frankly, it caused mixed emotions for my friend, when in fact she had felt good about her little comeback, now she was second guessing it and also kinda hurt the other player felt that way.
Now, I realize that how that comment was received and meant is simply a matter of perspectives. Her opponent (also a good friend of mine), meant nothing rude by it at all; she was just expressing her point of view of the match.
But my point is two-fold:
- People view matches differently.
- Some things should not be shared if it's not helpful.